“I did none of it and yet I am OK with whatever was!” - isn’t this such a huge accomplishment!
I have been trying really hard to talk nicer to myself and tell myself I’m NOT going to be hard on myself. Catching our thoughts and switching them is huge!
Dear Mika, we are hard on ourselves until we simply cannot anymore. I have to say it is a lot connected to our patterns of behaviour, to our childhood, yes yes the roots are most of the time there. Talking to ourselves ... nicer ... this is an interesting topic. I know the Louise Hay principle, something that has been used by many so called gurus nowadays. Hmmm it works and it doesn't. I think we need to find what makes us be so harsh on ourselves and change one tiny thing at a time. In my case I can talk to myself sort to nicer but I don't believe it so it washes off my back like water on a duck. I am exploring a different technique :) trying to have a dialogue with the harsh one within ... asking what do you need now? what can I do to help you? What hurts? Many times, I discovered that the one who is so harsh is the mother's projection on me ... I discovered that a part of her is constantly alive in my mind as as abusive as ever. This is work in progress for me .. finding ways to navigate the labyrinth of the mind. I wonder who is behind the "bully" in your mind. Please know that I appreciate ... YOU!
“I did none of it and yet I am OK with whatever was!” - isn’t this such a huge accomplishment!
I have been trying really hard to talk nicer to myself and tell myself I’m NOT going to be hard on myself. Catching our thoughts and switching them is huge!
Dear Mika, we are hard on ourselves until we simply cannot anymore. I have to say it is a lot connected to our patterns of behaviour, to our childhood, yes yes the roots are most of the time there. Talking to ourselves ... nicer ... this is an interesting topic. I know the Louise Hay principle, something that has been used by many so called gurus nowadays. Hmmm it works and it doesn't. I think we need to find what makes us be so harsh on ourselves and change one tiny thing at a time. In my case I can talk to myself sort to nicer but I don't believe it so it washes off my back like water on a duck. I am exploring a different technique :) trying to have a dialogue with the harsh one within ... asking what do you need now? what can I do to help you? What hurts? Many times, I discovered that the one who is so harsh is the mother's projection on me ... I discovered that a part of her is constantly alive in my mind as as abusive as ever. This is work in progress for me .. finding ways to navigate the labyrinth of the mind. I wonder who is behind the "bully" in your mind. Please know that I appreciate ... YOU!
I love this new perspective. Thank you!
My pleasure! My pleasure!